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Dating and relationship advice with columnist Deborrah Cooper
Love this intro music!
How many channels like your exisist Couse i only found yours 😁
This channel is unique. There is only one me with 30 years of experience in the field, a background in education and psychology and communication, a degree in Mass Communications and experience in radio, television, print and public speaking. Plus legal training, research training, and a head full of 50,000 or more books. LOL. There is very little I don’t know.
Hi. Deb, thanks for this video. The men over 40 need to listen to this video. I’m over 50 and I see a lot of the men over and over again do these same mistakes when dating. A lot of these older men don’t have a clue. They seem to have sex on the brain. Then they don’t understand why they don’t get a second date and phone number blocked. The other thing, a lot of women today don’t have standards and feed into a man’s foolishness. I’ve been on dates where I already know after the first 15 minutes it was not going to work out. When I started dating in the late 80s, things were different. Men
back then knew how to act. A women who had standards and self-respect, men saw that and would want to date her to make her their girlfriend or wife. Today, this type of women is looked at as either being stuck-up, people saying your standards too high or men saying “it’s too much work to date you”. Today, it seems like the promiscuous and hoish behavior is celebrated like a badge of honor.
Not sure what happened over the past 30 years. These men want to be the king in the relationship but don’t want to put the work in, don’t want to be responsible or accountable for anything.
Off subject but I’m really loving your intro music lately. Very urban jazzy
A little more info on me: 28 years old and I’m an engineer so social skills was never my strong point growing up. I was floored when I joined the stream like 10 minutes in. I’m going to practice everything you taught me today. Even professionally this will really help me and hopefully other men.
We’re rooting for you!
matasuki how did you get started in engineering?
I’m looking into that career field.